Dying Alone
Do you really...?
Today an in-law family member died. He was 82 and had struggle with illness for a while. Interestingly, nothing really officially diagnosed. He started feeling NOT OK after the pandemic, went to A&E, tests were done, doctors could not see anything.
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But he had shortage of breath and a pain in his chest. Time passed by and he ended up needing oxygen regularly. And then he was told his heart was ‘weak’ (literal words). He obviously believed all that and stopped doing things he used to enjoy, like going out for walks. Maybe he just could not do it, maybe he just could not make himself do it.
Today he woke up, got up and fell down 1 meter away from his bed. He was found by his carer shortly after. Dead.
A man who never married
He never married or have kids but, nowadays, it would not necessarily mean he had no love life or relationships, right? I know people who has been together a long, long time and never married.
Well, he did not have, to my knowledge (maybe when he was very young he did) any romantic relationship and he lived with a parrot and a couple of singing birds.
Was it by choice? No, it wasn’t.
And the reason I know that is because only a couple of years ago and before the ‘illness’ he, actually, had a “girlfriend”. Let me explain.
A scammer girlfriend
The only family he had left was her two sisters, one in her 90s, the other in her late 70s and their children. So it was agreed to hire a carer when he started feeling ill.
This woman appeared and got the job. She had to go once a day to sort out the house, his food, his laundry and just check on him and keep company for a few hours.
It all seemed normal.
Until one day when one of the nieces who had access to his online banking (as he did not use the Internet at all) spotted something weird.
Unusual large amounts of money were being withdrawn.
I won’t bore you… fast forward to the subsequent investigation by the younger sister and the moment he told her with a big smile: “I have a girlfriend”.
Fast forward again and they found out this woman was a known scammer who took care of elderly people and, literally, stole from them by pretending to fall in love and who knows what else (these details I personally don’t know or have the stomach to want to know really).
She had taken (by going with him to the bank several times) over 60K. She told him she was in need of money because A, B or C.
The decline
He was in denial the whole time and did not want to believe what was happening but the family took care of it. This woman had been reported to the police before and had pending court cases.
They got back some of that money in the end but not all of it and a restraining order.
Yes, he was already old, right? A man in his 80s…but after that event, he started getting sicker and sicker. Remember that I said doctors could not find a physical evidence.
My intuition and understanding of energy and how we operate as human beings and what we are made of tells me… his disappointment made him weaker and weaker.
He thought he had found ‘love’ at last, bless him.
I have seen this happening before in a much more close relative but I am not ready to talk about it yet. I am referring to getting sick after suffering a major emotional distress or shock.
For some people this can lead to an awakening to their own higher self and a connection to something greater than what the eye can see.
For others, that connection is not ready to be made as their evolution path might not be evolved enough in this lifetime and, instead, they fall into the decline of their animal nature (our physical plane).
This was the case here.
About dying alone
In essence we all die alone, we know that.
But I was more thinking about living alone really. I often get triggered when I see that people are totally obsessed with finding ‘the one’ and be in a relationship as the top one priority in life.
I don’t think most people know how to be alone or enjoy their own company. In fact, for most people this straight up sounds like a nightmare with only negative connotations attached to it.
Nothing farthest from the truth.
My point is that, although we are social beings and need social interaction, we must look at being alone as a strength, as something to strive for and learn.
Only then, we are ready to have a perfect relationship based on true love and mutual admiration and not based on co-dependency and clinginess.
Here are some very wise quotes about the subject:
"You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with" ~ Wayne Dyer
“You only grow when you are alone” ~ Paul Newman
“If you want to be strong, learn how to fight alone” ~ anonymous