Getting Rid of the Shame About Your Sexual Fantasies

And my explicit dream🫣

So I just had a vivid dream and it wasn’t one that you happily share with your partner over the morning coffee (or with your co-workers at the office for that matter). Hmmm, not really. And then the question pops in my head: and…why not?

Imagine this convo:

• Have you slept well, honey, I heard you making weird noises?

• Actually yes, better than ever, and I have woken up with my underwear soaked, wanna know why?

Tell me. Is this a conversation starter you could actually have with your partner?

Or, are you more the kind of person who would reply:

• I have, darling. There must has been a weird dream, I am having a lot of those lately.

And then move on to what’s the plan for the day and who is doing the food shopping in the evening?

I know for a fact that these (apparently) weirdos who can freely talk about sexual fantasies exist. The ones who openly talk about sex with no filters and no sense of shame whatsoever.

But you know what?

*Note: I am using the word “weirdo” on purpose because that is how the rest of the “non-weirdos” perceive them.

Weirdos vs Non-Weirdos

I am totally making these numbers up (like most people actually do, lol) but I would dare to say that 95% of the population fall into the Non-weirdos category and only a 5% are “the others”.

Although in my deepest core beliefs I am convinced that is not completely accurate and ‘weirdness’ is getting more and more embraced and acknowledged by the minute.

Yes, I am telling you my wet dream in a minute but first let me make a little point.

Being a Non-Weirdo implies you are shaped like the majority. It means you think and do, if not the same, very similar to what the rest of the people do.

How can this be a good thing? How can ‘not standing out’ be a good thing for you?

What happens when deep down inside your core being, you actually realise that you are not ‘like them’?

What if you, let’s say, a straight married man with a family suddenly has a thought or a dream where another man sucks your dick?

I know, sorry, it sounds brutal and I know personally men who would stop reading right now and reject this idea altogether with rage: “I HAVE NEVER THOUGHT OF THAT IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!!”.

And it may be true but, tell me, have you not ever had a sexual fantasy popping up in your psyche which is not a conventional one (like banging your teacher)?

Why are some fantasies OK (or more socially accepted) and not others?

Well, the answer is simple.

We create our own world (or box 👆🏻) and that box is the construct we have made for ourselves based on the societal standards set up by a mysterious force (so-called Matrix).

So, basically, we could swap the word ‘weirdo’ for ‘conventional’ (it sounds better, right?) but anyway, I’ll raise my hand and say:

- I am a proud Weirdo!

Why? Because I see the non-weirdos suffering so much. I come from a family of conventional people. A family who, although with the odd isolated act of rebellion, never embraced their own difference and stuck by the convention in the outside world creating therefore an inner permanent contradiction and imbalance on the inside that led them to live a miserable life.

There is no happy people in my family and that is a hard thing to say.

I have seen enough of it after 51 years of life and the more I learn about my ancestors, the more I feel this urge to, somehow, liberate the clan (no, I won’t go esoteric, don’t worry).

So how to get rid of the shame then?

It is not easy, I am not going to lie to you. We are so heavily programmed that it takes some guts and great willpower to do so.

Working on yourself and your core beliefs and gaining autonomy breaking up with the herd mentality is the key.

I talk about it in this video by the way. As a quick start and applicable to any belief, three steps:

• Acknowledging

• Questioning

• Embracing

I hope I am giving you food for thought in this astrologically powerful Friday 💕

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I wish you a great weekend.

Rose 🌹