Greener grass and water, my friend
Weekly Letter July 26th, 2024
Listen and read along:
Do I feel like a stranger to you? Or rather like an online friend? How do you imagine it is taking me out for dinner or sharing an evening sitting on the sofa just chatting?
Just wondering…
One of the things I receive the most is: “You are perfect, Rose. I would spend the rest of my life with a woman like you”.
And I need to tell you something: I am far from perfect.
But you already know this because, well, nobody is perfect, right?
I suppose it all comes down to the idealised image you make in your mind about somebody.
I’ll go to the stereotyped “grass seems always greener” and I’ll add: “It’s never greener but it is NEW grass”.
Humans like novelty
Yes, that’s how we are. We get bored easily.
For some might take months, for others years but eventually happens.
And it happens in all areas in life: relationships, jobs, hobbies and all sorts of things.
That’s why I strongly support that the “happily ever after” or “till death do us apart” must be abolished. Wiped out.
Don’t get me wrong…it may be so for some people and, if so, then it’s great!!
But assuming that is WHAT HAS TO HAPPEN has ruined many people’s lives.
And we only get one. One life.
Are you living your Best life?
Imagine that we went into a relationship with no expectations about the duration.
Thinking that it’ll be amazing WHILE IT LASTS.
And if, for whatever the reason, we simply grow apart…then a good conversation, a big hug, best wishes, lots of love and …LET GO of it.
Remember the teaching of Bruce Lee? “Be water, My friend”.
It means to be flexible in both mind and body. It's about not being rigid and stubborn about your beliefs, practices, understanding, and instead, about being open-minded and able to change and adapt to the circumstances we are put into.
If you put water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. If you put it in a glass, it becomes the glass. In a river, it’s the river…isn’t that super cool?
If we lived our lives this way and we adapted to every single situation, things will be easier.
(Don’t get me started talking about the sh1thole society we all have constructed and the humongous mess we are all going through and all the dark predictions out there circulating… again, be water my friend…or wine, whatever, but don’t get stuck in pessimism or drama cause then you’re simply…fucked).
However, “being water” must not get confused with the so-called ‘going with the flow’ as in: “Oh whatever happens, it’s fine and I’ll do nothing about it kind of thing”.
No, we have choice and the right to take it.
So that only applies when we have no control whatsoever about the situation that we must become like water.
But, in fact, we cannot control what’s outside of us or what other people say, think or do to us…what we have ALL control OVER is how we react to those things.
And there lies the key to a happy life (not in money, not in a relationship, not in a promotion…, none of that).
What’s up this week?
My “Honey Play Box” video is getting a lot of interest and I have already been told the Mini Machine is really good 🙈 (still haven’t tried it on myself).
I have posted as well this short video (I call it “relationship nuggets”)
I will include ALL my links at the end of my Letters as well so you know where to click if you fancy to know or see more of the non-perfect ME (I actually had planned to trash myself in this letter but then I thought: “You’re so dumb, Rose” so I didn’t).
I wanna share with you feedback received this week from a woman subscribing to my OF page (I don’t get many of them!!).
This feedbacks make me really happy 😁
Miss Dawson’s Book Club
This is a new initiative as some of you ask me about books I am reading and we have conversations about it.
I will include one book every week 📚and, in the next letter, I’ll prepare a list of my favs in personal development and self-discovery in case you’re interested.
I don’t read fiction at this stage of my life 💁🏻♀️
This week I’ll show you my new acquisition which is more a consultation book rather than a story.
I’ll make some ‘nuggets’ so you can learn a bit about yourself and your relationship to sexuality.
I wish you have an amazing end of July and go into August with your batteries fully charged ❤️
Love,
Rose