Sex amidst hectic life
how to find balance
I get it and I think you do too. With this ‘slavery mode’ life we have all fabricated for ourselves, with having to work, building and maintaining a family (or trying date to get to that point! - God bless your soul!), being fit, being social, being rich, being happy and the million other things on your plate, finding time for intimacy can feel like trying to squeeze into your high school jeans.
Ok, it’s true. I do fit in my high school jeans, I’ll be honest with you.
And you know why?
Because I have cracked the code and found the Truth that Jesus said it would set you free. That one.
Not kidding you. I’ll share it at due course.
But for now… if you don’t fit in your old jeans or, simply, have lost the will to put your pants down…listen to this carefully.
If you’re one of those who, actually, cannot actually have them up and you spend hours daily fantasising and spending your money and energy in pleasuring yourself - you know what I mean - …well, that is not healthy.
You’re out of balance.
And that is another article coming up… stay tuned.
How To Balance Sex and Life
There are few basics that being followed will considerably make a positive impact in your life.
Time and Energy Management
Intimacy needs these two things so DO THIS:
Schedule it
As unromantic as it sounds, if your case is one of those with kids and all that family life happening and no idle time or quietness… just plan it.
Some people call it “Date Night” and it a good idea regardless of what you call it. It is simply a time for an intimate encounter.
Remember when we were young (sigh) and you fell in love and you could not wait to meet with him/her and you felt that ‘burning desire’ (yes, that one between your legs). That’s called anticipation and is great. Get you in the mood and mentally prepares you.
The Power of the Quickie
I know this is not as powerful as The Power of Now, but I am Rose, not Eckhart! Gimme a break!
Sometimes you’re simply too tired or stressed (which obviously you need to look into as well) or unexpected shit happens and you just can’t fit it in. No problem.
The key with this approach is communication first. I mean…don’t get home after work and approach her while she does the dishes charging like a bull without even saying Hello.
Let’s be spontaneous but not dickheads.
You surely can spare 5 minutes of initiating contact, soft touch, whispering nice words in her ear and be very very gentle and seductive.
You could even massage her back for 47 seconds and kiss her neck…and then just GO!
What? Kids around? Just go to the bathroom for the finale and honour the “quickie”. Maybe you can keep track and break a record!
Sexual Health and Well-being
Because if you go through life plodding along and always out of energy, how are you going to find the strength for intimacy?
Rest and Recharge
Listen up. If you’re too tired to function, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. Prioritize rest! Make sure you’re getting enough sleep and managing stress.
A well-rested you is a more energetic, enthusiastic you. Think of it like charging your phone – you wouldn’t expect it to last all day on 10%, right? Your body is the same.
Stay Active and Eat Well
It sounds contradictory, right? Rest and recharge but stay active, lol.
It is not. What it means is plan for this as well and, trust me, you don’t have to go to the gym 6 days a week at 5am, that’s BS and marketing.
Just move, whatever that means to you and it is available. Just be aware of it. You cannot be sat on a desk or a truck for 10 hours and from there, place your beautiful booty on the couch and press the Play button.
Eat whatever makes you feel good too. You’re not a kid and, at this stage and with so much info out there, you already know better than you think.
Processed shit? The less the better.
Alcohol? Sugar? Smoking? The less the better.
A little step towards the “less” goes a long way. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
(Plus I am not dietitian or PhD or whatever to give nutritional advise but, for God’s sake, use your common sense!)
Make your Relationship a Priority
I mean, because it is. If you are in a committed relationship and you don’t treat it as a priority, you’re doomed. Sex won’t save you.
Prioritising sex and not prioritising the actual relationship is a common mistake.
As big mistake as prioritising the relationship and not the sex or not prioritising any of those (I know that scenario very well personally).
Communicate and Connect
Talk, talk, talk… Open communication with your partner is key. Discuss your needs, desires, and even your schedules. If you both know where you stand, it’s easier to find common ground and make time for each other.
Plus, talking about sex can be a great way to get in the mood!
Small Gestures, Big Impact
Little things matter more than you think. A quick kiss before work, a flirty text during the day, or a gentle touch as you pass by each other can keep the connection strong. These small gestures build up and make the big moments even more special.
Spice it up
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In conclusion, balancing sex and daily life doesn’t have to be a Herculean task nor is rocket science.
With a bit of planning, communication, and prioritizing your well-being, you can keep the fire burning even amidst the busiest schedules.
So, go ahead – schedule that date night, embrace the quickie, and make time for what really matters. Your relationship (and you) will thank you for it!