When "fine" isn't fine anymore
An invitation
Something is shifting.
I’ve been hearing the same quiet sentence again and again - sometimes spoken, sometimes just hovering in the room:
“Something is missing… and I don’t know what it is.”
“I’m okay, but…”
“Everything is fine, yet I’m not happy.”
Not in a dramatic way. Just… off.
This seems to be happening to people who, on paper, have a good life. Relationships. Work. Stability. Functioning. And yet there’s a low-grade restlessness underneath it all - a sense of unease that doesn’t quite rise to the level of crisis, but also doesn’t go away.
That feeling isn’t failure.
It’s information.
Most of us were never taught how to read it.
It’s what shows up when an old operating system (roles, identities, expectations, motivations) has quietly expired. The problem is that when we don’t understand what’s happening, we try to override it. We distract. We optimize. We turn the discomfort into habits, compulsions, or addictions, and tell ourselves we just need to try harder.
But this phase isn’t asking for motivation.
It’s asking for orientation.
Over the last months, this theme has been everywhere in my life - in conversations with friends, family, people who reach out privately. Again and again, I hear some version of: “I feel better after talking to you.”
Not because I fix anything but because I’m living differently. I’m following curiosity, desire, and truth instead of staying comfortable. That kind of energy is contagious. It doesn’t solve anything, but it does wake something up in people who’ve been stuck for a long time.
And that’s what finally pushed me to do something that honestly scares me a little.
On my birthday next Sunday, I’m hosting a live Zoom webinar called:
When “fine” isn’t fine anymore
I chose my birthday intentionally. Not as a celebration - but as a NEW beginning. A personal ritual. This moment in life deserves to be named, not rushed past.
This session isn’t therapy or coaching and it is not spiritual bypassing.
I’m not here to tell you what to do with your life, offer shiny answers, or push reinvention narratives.
What I am doing is holding space to talk about:
Why so many of us feel subtly lost right now
What’s shifting collectively (and why it feels disorienting)
How to recognize this phase without pathologizing it
Why “Eros,” aliveness, and truth-telling matter - and how to ground them in real life, not abstractions
This is especially for those who:
Feel unfulfilled or oddly anxious about the future
Have a busy life that somehow feels fragmented
Sense a pull toward meaning, not just improvement
Are done with comfort that costs them truth
I’ve created an “Eros worksheet” that helps make this inner landscape more tangible - not mystical, not dramatic, just honest. It gives language to something many people feel but can’t yet articulate.
Logistics:
Live on Zoom
Sunday, 6pm UK time (1pm EST | 10am PST)
One-way & anonymous (you’ll have not camera or mic this time)
Recording will be sent
If time zones or Sunday mornings make it hard, no pressure. Registering gives you access to the recording.
This isn’t about doing more with your life.
It’s about listening more accurately.
For now, just notice what stirred as you read this. Sometimes that’s the first clue.
Love,
Rose 🌹
